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Because as things stand, my daughter Ava, who is two-and-a-half, will never be able to say those words.
Ava, we have decided, will be raised as an only child.
Bringing up Ava as an only child is not a decision we have taken lightly. We can lavish time, affection and opportunities on Ava. Bethan and I have discussed this thorny issue with friends.
We feel we simply do not have the resources - money, space (we live in a two-bedroom flat), energy or sanity - to do that for two children. Of course, some would argue I'm trying to find excuses for the fact I don't want to go through another year of nappies, baby vomit and sleepless nights. It's true that Bethan and I didn't enjoy the first year of Ava's life. You tend to encounter four main arguments against bringing up an only child: And yet the experience of growing up an only child is undeniably 'different' to growing up with a sibling.
But if I'm completely honest, the deciding factor is financial. Bethan used up her savings during maternity leave and, as a writer, I am in no position to support her financially.
Our flat (which doubles as my office) already feels cramped.
Yesterday in the playground I watched a little girl point to a snotty-nosed toddler waddling behind her, puff out her chest with pride and announce: 'That's my brother!
' Something lurched in my chest - a pang of guilt, or maybe doubt.
Nine years after Shafilea disappeared, the truth finally came out in court - her father had stuffed a plastic bag in Shafilea's mouth, holding it there until she stopped breathing.
A body language expert has analysed footage of Iftikhar and Farzana Ahmed lying to the public about 17-year-old Shafilea's 2003 disappearance, claiming they were being racially victimised, for a documentary.
It shows footage of an interview given by the parents, during which Iftikhar is asked if he had any involvement with his daughter's disappearance, to which he replies: 'Never.
Second, divorce and relationship breakdowns, usually within a year of the birth of a child, have led to an increase in the number of only children brought up by a single parent. I firmly believe there has been a cultural shift, too. For the first time in two-and-a-half-years, I'm enjoying life -and I'm not prepared to go back to those dark days without a good reason.
In the past, parents of only children were branded as selfish and warned their offspring would end up spoilt and maladjusted, but modern parents are rejecting these judgments. Of course, I'd gladly put myself through it all again if I felt it was in the long-term interest of our family, but Bethan and I are not prepared to sign up blindly for a second child simply because society tells us we should.
I couldn't even dream of it.' It shows footage of an interview given by the parents, during which Iftikhar is asked if he had any involvement with his daughter's disappearance, to which he replies: 'Never.